Thursday, March 17, 2011

Ethan learns that promises can be broken.

About two weeks ago we took Ethan to get his reward for stopping thumb sucking. This has been a battle and he has finally quit! Yay Ethan! So on the Monday after getting his reward which happend to be a Star Wars lego ship, who would have guessed, he decided to take his new lego people to school without telling me. When he got off the bus Monday afternoon he told me that he took his new lego people to school and a little boy wanted to borrow them. I got mad at first, but then took a step back. I sat down and asked him who the little boy was. It was someone he knew from pre-k. He isn't in a class with this boy and only sees him upon getting on the bus in the afternoon (they ride seperate buses). He said the child promised to give the people back the next day. I explained to Ethan that there was a chance he wouldn't be getting his toys back. I was upset that he took them to school without asking and from now on he needed to ask. I told him also he was going to learn a lesson from this. I told him I hoped more then anything that the little boy brings back his people but just because someone made a promise doesn't mean they will stick to it. So, two weeks later now, Ethan still has not gotten his people back. He knows now that he isn't getting them back. He is upset about it, but he understands now that sometimes kids/people will say whatever they have to in order to get something they want.

You might be thinking, why don't I step in and help him get his toys back. Well sorry, I am not that kinda Mom. He chose to take them to school without asking and he made the deal with the kid. I don't know the kid or the other mom. The school would careless about two missing lego people and well, when you let someone borrow something, you always take the risk they might not give it back. Ethan understands there is nothing I can do about it and that this was something he has to deal with. I told him to keep asking the little boy about it and you never know, he might show up one day and give them back.

Hopefully out of all of this, he will think before he lets someone borrow something. Lesson learned....I hope.


Anonymous said...

Cody learned that lesson the hard way too. Basically the same thing happened to him. I told him that if he gets his stuff back (also legos) then that's great but not to expect anything. I think that was in 1st grade and he's in 4th now...never got anything back from the other kid. I think it's a very important lesson. I told all my kids that I don't suggest taking their stuff to school but if they do, it might not come home and I will not go out of my way to get it returned because it was their decision to take it!

Unknown said...

I'd have done the same thing!